Therapy for when things feel tense, distant, or stuck in your relationship
Couples Therapy in St. Louis + Online Across Missouri
Many couples don't walk into therapy saying, "Everything is falling apart."
(Although it's okay if that's you.)
It usually sounds more like this.
Does this sound familiar?
"We keep having the same argument."
"I feel like I'm not being heard."
"It turns into a fight so fast."
"I don't even want to come home some days."
"We just feel off."
Or maybe it's quieter than that
You're not fighting all the time. But something has shifted.
You feel more like roommates than partners. There's tension sitting just under the surface.
You notice it in your body. That tight feeling when you hear the garage door. That pause before you walk into the house.
You're bracing for something. Even if nothing happens.
If you're looking for couples therapy in St. Louis, this is a good place to start.
What's actually happening
Most couples come in focused on one issue:
Communication
Parenting
Time
Who did what and when
But that's usually not the real problem.
What's happening underneath is that you've stopped feeling understood by each other. You're talking, but it's not landing. You're listening, but it's not really getting through.
And over time, that creates distance. One of you may shut down, and the other may push harder. You get stuck in a pattern that repeats.
What couples therapy is like with me
I'm not going to sit back and let the same argument play out in my office.
I'll slow the conversation down. I'll pause you when things start to escalate. I'll help you both hear what the other person is actually trying to say.
1.
Slow it down
When conversations spiral, I step in. Not to take sides, to help both of you stay present long enough to actually hear each other.
2.
Translate in real time
A lot of times, you say something one way and your partner hears it completely differently. I help bridge that gap so it can finally make sense.
3.
Find what's underneath
The argument you keep having usually isn't really about the argument. We figure out what's actually driving the pattern and start to shift it from there.
Who is Couples Therapy for?
You don't have to be on the brink of separation to start.
Couples therapy can help if:
You feel disconnected
You're stuck in the same arguments
You're not sure how to communicate anymore
There's tension at home that doesn't go away
You want things to feel different, but don't know how
You just have to be willing to look at what's happening and try something different.
Most couples wait too long. The patterns are already deep by the time they come in. Earlier is always better, even if things feel more "manageable" than urgent.
FEES
Couples therapy in St. Louis + MO.
Couples therapy (60 minutes) $175
Private pay only. A limited number of sliding scale spots are available. Superbills can be provided upon request.
"Is it time to invest in your relationship?"
You don't have to keep having the same conversation on repeat. If you want things to feel different between you, this is a place to start.